Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy - The New Topping Book
This updated edition includes all of the excellent material covered in the book's first publishing, but adds new information (ie about meeting people online and general info about the BDSM community has changed since the book's first printing). The authors speak of 'ritual' in SM. They devote a whole chapter to 'spiritual SM,' describing ways to incorporate ritual into your scene. Another important point they discuss is 'shadow play,' which is doing a scene that may entail major emotional risk. They discuss ways to do this kind of play, how to do them and end them safely, and what to do if something goes wrong. In fact another major point the authors discuss early on is what to do when something goes wrong in a scene, and how to handle this, or when either partner 'crashes' or has 'guilt feelings' about the play right after doing it, or even a day or several days later. This also goes for after care, for even when a scene goes great, one or both participants may want or need this. Like the original edition, there are chapters featuring topics Rights and Responsibilities of a Top (almost a 'Bill of Rights'), Learning to Play, Ethics, even where and how to meet others, be it at a munch, play party, or SM group event.